Oh yes, and one day while boggling on the interwebby I stumbled across the concept of 'No punishment parenting'. Oh, no, I thought. Another crazy idea I'll latch on to to make my life more difficult for myself. (I'll never understand why I can't just do things the normal, easy way!)
So, The Discipline Book. I've read the first section which is about setting the environment for positive parenting. The Sears' say the the role of parents is to help the child feel right so that they will act right. Discipline is best if it is internally motivated rather than externally. So the kid should want to be good because it makes them feel good and makes their parents happy rather than behaving because they're scared of getting in trouble.
Some of their ideas include:
- understand where the child is developmentally - what are they capable/incapable of doing and understanding?
- create a 'yes' environment so that you don't need to say no all the time (baby-proofing etc)
- ensure good nutrition
- practice attachment parenting
- use alternatives to 'no'
- build self-esteem
- help your child to express themselves safely
I'm just now moving on to the section titled "Correcting undesirable behaviour". Sounds fun...